Our little family is comprised of a veritable rainbow of race and color. We have white, we have black, and we have all the shades in between. Our children are beautiful. I know that as their father, I am biased, but I am making absolutely no apologies for that bias!
My children talk about their skin color in the most superficial of senses. They see it as no different than eye color, or eyelash length, or tall or short, or any other attribute. That is how it should be. They know God made them the way they are and they have no reason to be ashamed, nor does anyone else.
You see, our children are colorblind. They are colorblind not because they don’t notice color, but because they understand what it is, nothing more than a physical attribute. They understand that all people have value and that you measure a person by their character and their character alone.
That is the rub. You cannot ever achieve colorblindness in any society where there is a vacuum of value. The world is built around comparative value. It cannot be ignored nor denied. The world is not egalitarian. There will always be smarter, prettier, richer people than others. There will always be people that can perform better, say things better, write better, paint better, and so on. Kids understand this inherently.
If you teach them that every choice is as good as another, you are teaching them a lie, and what is worse, you are robbing them of the only true way to measure humans. What are they going to fill that void with? If you think they won’t you are kidding yourself. Just walk into a classroom of any age and you will see their little “value” system at work. They will establish a pecking order. It is unavoidable. The only question that remains is what is the basis of their pecking order.
You don’t solve the “race issue” by continuing to talk about it (even if you are the President). You don’t solve it by the media highlighting some racial tragedy. You don’t solve it by forums, coalitions, or task forces. You don’t solve the race issue by legislating “hate crimes.” And you certainly don’t get there by treating someone special because of their color (or lack). These things just fan the flames with more attention to what should not be.
I remember when our President was elected and how everyone claimed it was a victory for the race issue. It demonstrated how far we had progressed as a nation. I remember kneeling next to my son’s bed that night and crying. Crying for him and our nation in prayer. If we are talking about the man’s color, we haven’t achieved a thing. If people cannot look at our President the way I look at my son and only notice his skin in a completely secondary way, then there is no victory.
If you want your children to be truly colorblind, don’t teach them that everyone is the same. Rather teach them to love their differences and value character. You see, being colorblind cannot happen when we are blind to everything.
Colorblindness can only happen when we see character in 20/20.